By considering a move in three stages - before, during, and after - and thinking about your children’s needs during each stage, you can make a big difference in how your kids feel about the move and how they adjust afterwards.
Tell your children about the move as soon as you can. The more time they have to think about and prepare for the move, the easier it will be for them.
Give your children a chance to express their feelings. Be honest about your own feelings too. Most children experience anger, sadness or worry just as adults do.
Help older children prepare a list of phone numbers and
addresses of close friends, relatives, and other important people in their lives.
Knowing they can stay in touch with these people is an important part of a successful move. Let them participate in decision making.